Oh boy again
Oh gosh, oh gosh, oh gosh.
Read the post below if you haven't already. This one dovetails with it. All of those texts were ones that Liz sent last night. She's sent ones all today too. Texts telling me she was going to marry this guy she's interested in just so she won't be alone, texts upset that I'm going to be with someone and she'll be alone, texts asking me to promise that we'll be friends forever. I hate fighting with a friend, even a friend as lousy as Liz, and all day today I felt nauseous, shaky, pale. A coworker thought I had the flu.
Tonight it got worse. She was angry that I was getting married, positive that she'd be pushed to the side, upset that she wasn't the most important person in my life (was she ever? I wasn't hers), but mostly afraid of being alone. She outright told me that I was her fallback, that she thought she'd grow old with me if she didn't find someone.
Thanks a lot.
But tonight...in the past 15 minutes...it became clearer why she was so mad. I asked her to just trust me that I wouldn't ignore her upon marrying and she said, "That's asking a lot for my trust. What do I get in return?"
Rolling my eyes but intent to keep the peace I said, "What do you want?"
She told me that I know what she wants, and that I wouldn't have asked if I didn't want it too.
"I want candles, removing clothes, naked bodies against each other, tongue between legs, finger inserted. What would you like to try? Tell me"
I almost threw up. Not because of the lesbian scenario, but at the thought of cheating on Mike, and the thought that my boundaries could be so casually violated. She's asked this before, she knows I'm not interested, and yet, here we go again. Shaking, I wrote back, "I just asked so I knew what I was dealing with. Liz, I can't and I don't want to. I'm sorry."
She wrote back that her married lover is good in bed and the guy she's dating is cute. She'll respect my desire not to fucking cheat on Mike, but she's still not happy about my impending marriage.
I guess we're still "friends."
Whoopee.
I can't handle much more of this.
Read the post below if you haven't already. This one dovetails with it. All of those texts were ones that Liz sent last night. She's sent ones all today too. Texts telling me she was going to marry this guy she's interested in just so she won't be alone, texts upset that I'm going to be with someone and she'll be alone, texts asking me to promise that we'll be friends forever. I hate fighting with a friend, even a friend as lousy as Liz, and all day today I felt nauseous, shaky, pale. A coworker thought I had the flu.
Tonight it got worse. She was angry that I was getting married, positive that she'd be pushed to the side, upset that she wasn't the most important person in my life (was she ever? I wasn't hers), but mostly afraid of being alone. She outright told me that I was her fallback, that she thought she'd grow old with me if she didn't find someone.
Thanks a lot.
But tonight...in the past 15 minutes...it became clearer why she was so mad. I asked her to just trust me that I wouldn't ignore her upon marrying and she said, "That's asking a lot for my trust. What do I get in return?"
Rolling my eyes but intent to keep the peace I said, "What do you want?"
She told me that I know what she wants, and that I wouldn't have asked if I didn't want it too.
"I want candles, removing clothes, naked bodies against each other, tongue between legs, finger inserted. What would you like to try? Tell me"
I almost threw up. Not because of the lesbian scenario, but at the thought of cheating on Mike, and the thought that my boundaries could be so casually violated. She's asked this before, she knows I'm not interested, and yet, here we go again. Shaking, I wrote back, "I just asked so I knew what I was dealing with. Liz, I can't and I don't want to. I'm sorry."
She wrote back that her married lover is good in bed and the guy she's dating is cute. She'll respect my desire not to fucking cheat on Mike, but she's still not happy about my impending marriage.
I guess we're still "friends."
Whoopee.
I can't handle much more of this.
posted by Danulai at
7:22 PM
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2 Comments:
You can't reason with people that unbalanced and you can't have a real friendship with them because it's all about them - and friendships are all about caring about each other. You're a sweet person, but you don't need this - I'd say on top of the stress of getting married, but you don't need it, period. Just thank your lucky Diana that you have someone as wonderful as Mike & your true friends in your life and cut Liz loose. You're too even keeled to be tipped into the choppy waters of dissatisfaction by the drama queen. She feeds off your discomfort and you'll become just another dramatic episode in her twisted memory.
By
AJ, At
8:50 AM
oh dear :( get rid of her. cut her out of your life. you don't need this person in your life.
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dykewife, At
4:29 PM
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