An eventful conversation
Today I talked on the phone with my sister. She and her soon-to-be-ex-husband are officially divorcing in April, but they've already found a buyer for their house and will be moving out by February 15th. I asked if she was moving right back in with our parents.
She said probably not. Because she found someone else to live with.
The guy she's dating.
But it's okay, because they've been dating for a few weeks now and like each other a lot.
It would be a long commute to her job and the tech school where she's earing her associate's, but that's okay too, because she's quitting her job and dropping out of school. Maybe she'll go back again once she figures out what she'll like.
Too bad our parents don't know...my mom has been telling her about how the extra bedroom is almost cleaned up for her. They think she'll be moving in with her right away. She hasn't even told them that she's dating, let alone getting ready to live with someone.
My sister asked if I thought our parents would help her move.
Um...
...no.
The only thing I could think of to say is, "For the love of God, don't let him knock you up until after your divorce is final." I can't decide if that's the most horrible attempt at advice ever, or the most practical.
Sometimes I'm surprised that we share genes.
posted by Danulai @ 6:36 PM
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Pragmatic advice for sure.
:-)
practical, you are.
i have to admit, everything she's done and doing sounds like the bpd she's been diagnosed with.
keep prepared for the rollercoaster that her life is going to be. the best thing you can do for yourself is is learn to detach yourself from her stuff, otherwise you're going end up stressing out.
I wish I could offer 'sage' advice, but I'm afraid I'd only be spitting sand from the sibling-troubled desert we seem to share.
Sometimes, LESS is better. Or nothing at all.
Hang in there -- and we'll ride the wave together! Just remember we've got each other for co-operative misery ;)
I think that of my siblings sometimes, surprised we share the same genes.
My sister guy-hops, including the moving-in part. But it's kind of bad, considering she has 2 kids. She's been with the same guy for about 2 years now, though. These kind of people need to figure things out for themselves.
She just might be better off moving in with mom and dad. BPD really sucks.
You didn't mention the dropping out of school bit... that's extra-special stupid.
Just... wow.
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