Baby Shower
My sister's pregnancy is progressing well, and she's due at the end of March. The other day we were talking about her baby shower.
"Do you think Mom will have it in January?" Karen asked me.
"Probably February," I said. "I think Mom had mine in April and I was due in May."
"But I want her to have it in January," Karen said, "right after the holidays."
"Why so early?" I asked.
"In case I don't get everything I want," she said. "I don't want to be scrounging for money at the last minute to get them."
She really is worried. And, on one hand, I would be too. She works as a CNA and her boyfriend is on SSI. They don't have a lot of money to get things so she probably is counting on getting a lot at the shower. But on the other hand, she isn't being smart about her registry. She's planning on asking for a lot of expensive stuff. You'd think that she'd be looking for values if she knows she can't afford to buy things herself and needs to maximize what people will get her at the shower, but nope.
She eventually said that the only things she really needs are a place for the kid to ride and a place for him to sleep. And I told her that if she doesn't get a car seat and a crib at the shower she can borrow our infant seat and Pack-n-Play until she can afford one of her own, or at least until Bernamon* is born. She didn't seem terribly enthused.
Mike and I got a lot of stuff at our shower, but we also were prepared to provide for the kid ourselves. The $250 Karen recently spent on a new camera could have bought a new crib, or a car seat with money to spare to put toward a second. But if she finds herself ready to deliver and having to borrow our stuff she won't blame herself - she'll blame my mom for her poor planning of the shower, or my family for not shelling out enough.
She has a sense of entitlement that irritates me. She expects the state and our family to provide a lot for this baby. I just hope that she realizes soon that most of the burden will fall on her shoulders.
* We refer to our baby-in-process as Bernamon.
"Do you think Mom will have it in January?" Karen asked me.
"Probably February," I said. "I think Mom had mine in April and I was due in May."
"But I want her to have it in January," Karen said, "right after the holidays."
"Why so early?" I asked.
"In case I don't get everything I want," she said. "I don't want to be scrounging for money at the last minute to get them."
She really is worried. And, on one hand, I would be too. She works as a CNA and her boyfriend is on SSI. They don't have a lot of money to get things so she probably is counting on getting a lot at the shower. But on the other hand, she isn't being smart about her registry. She's planning on asking for a lot of expensive stuff. You'd think that she'd be looking for values if she knows she can't afford to buy things herself and needs to maximize what people will get her at the shower, but nope.
She eventually said that the only things she really needs are a place for the kid to ride and a place for him to sleep. And I told her that if she doesn't get a car seat and a crib at the shower she can borrow our infant seat and Pack-n-Play until she can afford one of her own, or at least until Bernamon* is born. She didn't seem terribly enthused.
Mike and I got a lot of stuff at our shower, but we also were prepared to provide for the kid ourselves. The $250 Karen recently spent on a new camera could have bought a new crib, or a car seat with money to spare to put toward a second. But if she finds herself ready to deliver and having to borrow our stuff she won't blame herself - she'll blame my mom for her poor planning of the shower, or my family for not shelling out enough.
She has a sense of entitlement that irritates me. She expects the state and our family to provide a lot for this baby. I just hope that she realizes soon that most of the burden will fall on her shoulders.
* We refer to our baby-in-process as Bernamon.
posted by Danulai at
12:17 PM
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5 Comments:
Why Bernamon?
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KatKegger, At
9:33 PM
Our gender-indeterminate peanut is Mickey...for another month and change anyway.
By
dpaton, At
10:49 AM
Maybe it's best that you're pregnant too now so your sis won't be feeling entitled to all your baby things.
I'm curious what strange names she's considering for the child. I remember you saying they were really out there.
By
Creamy Silver, At
8:50 PM
Oh, she's having a boy and naming it Bram. As in, Bram Stoker. Stay classy!
By
Danulai, At
9:53 PM
Wow. Bram. He'll likely be the only one in his class!
At least its not Voldemort, or something equally scarring.
By
Creamy Silver, At
1:11 PM
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